How to Thrive After Your Divorce

How to Thrive After Your Divorce

It’s like your whole world has changed and you need to start your adult life all over again. A divorce can make you feel lost in many ways. But it can also be an opportunity to get your life moving in the right direction. A great place to begin is with the checkbook. Check out these tips to make sure you’re heading the right way.

1. Get Started Right Away

If you were a bit blindsided by your divorce (and really, who isn’t?), you may feel like you need a little time to recover from the shock. Taking a little time to mourn is fine, but don’t spend so much time off that you find yourself wallowing in self-pity. The quicker you get back on your feet, the quicker you can adjust to your new life. If it seems hard to move forward, enlist the help of a trusted friend to prompt you toward the next step. Financially, if you can’t seem to find that next step, there are professionals trained to help you.

2. Know Where You Stand

Next comes the part where assets and wealth are divided. It’s important to do a little research to determine what the law says is rightfully yours. Not everything can be split 50/50. For example, if you earn less income than your spouse, you may be entitled to support payments to supplement your earnings.

3. Learn What You Don’t Know

Your spouse may have been the one to handle all the finances. That will need to change in order for you to move on. Your first step is to find out your net worth. What assets do you have? Do you have any accounts in your name? In both your names? You don’t need to worry at first about whose money is whose—just find out what money is there.

4. Start Planning for the Future

Divorce is something no wants to prepare for, so chances are you do not have a plan in place when the inevitable comes to pass. It may seem like starting over—and in many ways it is—but hopefully you will remember how you started your financial life when you first became an adult. A spending plan should be your first step, so you can learn to live within your new means. Take account of all your current income. Create a place for any support income you will receive from your spouse, but don’t rely on it as regular income in case things don’t work out as expected. You’ll also need to make adjustments to your expenses. You should find yourself needing to spend less, as you prepare meals for one fewer person in your life, use less electricity, etc. You may have even moved to a smaller residence, which should also lower your bills. If you find you have anything left over after your expenses have been accounted for, make sure to consider the need to build up a new emergency fund.

Don’t let yourself wander in your loss. Take control of your new life. Start by taking control of your finances. Need more advice? Talk to the Hopman Group today to schedule an appointment.